I was cleaning the bathroom the other day (this is where I do all of my deep thinking obviously) and thinking about of the ladies I knew that are going to be first time mamas soon. I was thinking about that card that you always fill out at baby showers titled: Advice for the First Time Mom. As if I was qualified to give her advice! I thought about some of the things I wish I had known before I became a mamma. I guess, ultimately, I knew these things but maybe I didn’t really internalize or understand it.
Once you’re a mom your perception of time completely changes. It has to. Because time is not your own anymore. Every waking (and not waking) moment belongs to that sweet baby. Your whole life is dedicated to their constant care. Of course you are involved in other things. We all have jobs, to-do lists, spouses, and homes to take care of. But that doesn’t mean you’re off mom duty. Once you’re a mom you are always a mom. No matter what, once that sweet baby is placed in your arms you are not only responsible for him but your heart is forever connected. Of course you always WANT to be a mom because you love those little humans more than you ever thought possible. But you can’t help but wish you had moment of time that was 100% yours.
My point here is-this can become heavy. The responsibility can seem daunting and thinking about what you need to provide for this child is overwhelming. And then suddenly, the realization that you might not sleep through the night again for the rest of your life seems like an all too real possibility.
But I have an idea. All of that pressure and responsibility that we feel? Instead of letting it weigh down on us like a burden, let’s channel it into motivation, energy, enthusiasm, and even more love. Because, let’s face it, they aren’t going to be little forever. They aren’t going to be here to want to snuggle with you at 2 AM for very long. The house won’t have the messy remains of their curiosity and vivaciousness forever. So let’s use that pressure that we feel to help us not only make it through but love each and everyone of these precious days that we have with our little ones. Because they are so very precious and rare and worth every headache, dirty shirt, and sleepless night.
So at the next baby shower I’m going to write on that little card: just hug them a little tighter, sit just little closer, read one more book, sing one more song because it won’t last for very long.Nicole